No matter how much control that you have in your hand, you have to admit it. That life is full with uncertainties and doubt. Plus with the situation of pandemic right now (in Malaysia), most of us become anxious about how our future life looks like.
Whether it is financial, career, health, dreams, relationship or etc…
- “Am I getting the job?”
- “Am I able to pay my debt?”
- “How about my rizq?”
- “I hope I can have enough sales.”
- “I’m afraid to get sick or die.”
- “I’m not sure to explore a new path.”
- “Is he or she is the right fit to be my spouse?”
- “I don’t know whether I can have kid or not.”
- “Will I pass this worldly test?”
There are a lot of things to unpack. The situation can be overwhelmed. And to be honest, me too – is having a huge fear to explore this new path. Simply because it is something uncertain and for me, I can’t afford to fail and there are some responsibilities I need to consider.
“Uncertainty is the only certainty there is, and knowing how to live with insecurity is the only security.”John Allen Paulos
Yeah of course as human beings, we crave security. We want to have a sense of control over our lives. The thing is uncertainty can leave us feeling stressed, anxious and powerless over the direction of our life.
For some, it can drain you emotionally and trap you in a downward spiral of endless “what-ifs” and worst-case scenarios about what tomorrow may bring. While others may seem to enjoy taking risks and living unpredictable lives.
We are all different in how much uncertainty we can tolerate in life. But all of us have a limit.
So, to you who is in the same boat with me – searching for resilience in dealing with life’s uncertainties… I hope this sharing helps. =)
#1 – Understand The Concept
I read this book “The Spiritual Strength In Our Scars” by Liyana Musfirah. I love the idea she shares about the idea of certainty and uncertainty. Let us dig deeper.
She wrote, “Why do we need certainty? We need certainty because we want predictability. We need to know what will happen. We need to prepare ourselves for what is to come. We need certainty because we will be able to respond to things in a certain manner, expect certain outcome and determine the future.
In going through the phases in life, certainty is an important factor that will helps us through the process. Certainty is a useful tool that prepares us with appropriate responses so we do not make any mistake.
But the reality of life and living is not like that. We want things to be smooth sailing i.e predictable but that will never happen. In fact, life is always peppered with uncertainty and unpredictability.”
#2 – Accept That God Controls Everything
I guess what we need to do is just accepted that it is only natural for uncertainties. Why?
Because “dunya is a testing ground for humanity. Be it rich or poor, health or the sick, you and old. Single, married or divorced. These are all unique circumstances in which every living person is put through – as tests.
You will never know what will happen to you in the next 3 years. You cannot predict nor foresee with what will happen in the next month. And you do not even have any information on what will happen in the next minute.
Allah is the only One who has the full view of your journey of the past, present and future.
Think about it. Don’t you think certainty makes us expert and feel that we can determine any decision? Which can make us lose the plot where Allah and His Plans are the most certain. Yet, uncertainty place us in a human position to rely on God.”
#3 – Figure Out How To Comfort Yourselves
I realize for me to be okay with the uncertainty of exploring a new path is to do some action and detach myself from the result. Focus on the present and be happy with the effort that I make. Like me putting this piece of content out here as a milestone to achieve my dreams.
And yup, I admit the inner noise doesn’t go away. Sometimes, it keeps getting louder. Yet, the only way to handle it is not resist, take time to pause or slow down and do whatever things that I can control.
At the same time, it is a must to make a plan or goal setting. You gotta to have safety net too. Do your own thing and surrender to Allah.
Anas ibn Malik reported: A man said, “O Messenger of Allah, should I tie my camel and trust in Allah, or should I leave her untied and trust in Allah?” The Prophet, peace and blessings be upon him, said, “Tie her and trust in Allah.” Source: Sunan al-Tirmidhī 2517
When you obsess about a tomorrow you can’t control, you’re too busy judging what hasn’t happened yet to fully experience what’s happening right now.
It is okay if you don’t have plan for tomorrow—that doesn’t have to be a bad thing. That means you can spend today doing other things you love. It can be reading, listening to music, see the sun and connecting with people you love.
If ever you think you’ve created a controllable, predictable life for yourself, you can rest assured that’s an illusion. Nothing stays the same forever.
The uncertainty can keep you up at night or it can motivate you to practice acceptance, live in the moment and embrace the endless possibilities of living.